Thursday, February 13, 2014

Marriage is hard.

I have a wonderful husband. I'd like to think of myself as a wonderful wife. But marriage is hard. There are so many articles and blogs going around that explain the ways to keep your marriage strong,  25 ways to spice up date night, and 15 things you should be doing in your marriage and most of these articles and blogs have some good meaning to them, most of them show the importance of marriage. But marriage is still hard.
When you stood in front of whomever you did, said the vows you created, or didn't, it was a big moment in time. Not just because you might change your name, not just because you now wear shiny bling on your fingers, and not just because you had a wedding. It was a big moment in time because now you have become accountable to someone other than yourself. You have vowed to this person that you will love them, take care of them, and most importantly put their needs in front of your own. And this last one is why marriage is so hard.
Putting another's needs before your own has turned out to be a lot tougher than when you said it on your wedding day. It's actually so tough, that people came up with this thing called divorce. It's where the vows and promises you once made, don't matter anymore. Did you know that almost 50% of marriages end in divorce? Are you kidding me? That is just sad. This article has some good stats and percentages if you want to look.
All in all, marriage is hard. It takes work. But when you work at it and put your spouse before yourself, good things happen. When you think about how your actions effect someone else and their feelings, you might act differently. When have you ever done something nice for someone and not felt good inside after? You're happy, your spouse is happy.
God has called us to love one another. "A new command I give you: Love one another. as I have loved you, so you must love another." John 13:34 We are here to love. Our families, friends, enemies, and strangers, we are here to love them. Imagine a world where we loved people. Imagine a marriage that was built on love.
Marriage is hard. Loving is easy. Justin and I learn daily how to love each other in different ways. We are both so different in ways we show love, but that's what makes it special. He shows me love in ways I would've never thought of, and I get to see deep into his heart. We have in no way perfected the "art" of marriage, but he knows in order to have a happy life, he needs a happy wife we know in order to have a happy marriage, we need to love each other as God loved us. Simple.
In the words of my friends from DC Talk, "I don't care what you say, I don't care what you heard. Love. Love. Love is a verb."

God bless!


  1. Jennifer Ferrell (Davey)February 13, 2014 at 4:27 PM

    Love it. So simple, yet so insightful as many people miss this. Love is a choice, not always a feeling.

  2. If you have some free time, the book "The 5 Love Languages" is a good read. By Gary Chapman. I think you will find it inspiring. :)


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